Are you a giver/receiver of love

A bit of self-awareness.

In society, I've come across people who love GIVING love through their respective love language. But when they are the ones receiving love, their GIVING of love becomes weaker. Let's ignore the variable of incompatible love languages for this moment.

Some people who are not great at GIVING love, can be excellent at receiving love. By this, I mean when they are given love in some form, they are amplified positively.

I find it interesting that there is often this push and pull effect. I'm also not talking about relationships/friendships that are new and well within that honey moon phase. Yes, I believe honey moon phases exists in friendships and platonic relationships too. There is a push and pull of a seemingly undefined role of who is GIVING the love and who is RECEIVING the love. I believe this often happens because humans do not know fundamentally how to communicate/try to understand each other. We listen too much to our emotions and we listen too much to how we feel. A healthy relationship UNDERSTANDS at the heart of it. It admits that we are not perfect and telepathic. At the core, we do not cope well with cues and subtlety all the time.

A relationship/friendship is not a transaction. You cannot give and take, you cannot think like that. You cannot be the one receiving love in one moment, and then be giving it the next. It is not about putting the spotlight on the other, and then turning the spotlight onto you. That is not how you should think. This is not a turn based game. This is live. We must appreciate that interactions and communications that take place is NOT like:

Person A:

Person B:

There is so much going on during an interaction whether its over the phone, messages or face to face. We must admit that and appreciate the complexity. A healthy relationship AIMS TO UNDERSTAND ONE ANOTHER. Of course there are pre-requisites to this and I believe that is trust, attraction and certain level of self-awareness (what are your traumas and triggers, what are you dealing with still, what have you overcome, what do you want?).