In this complex modern society, we are often taught to avoid conflict in and by society. As a result, during our youth, adolescence and adulthood, we often teach ourselves to be conflict avoiding.
Avoiding conflicts dilutes our ability to problem solve. While not getting involved in conflicts/problems has obvious short term benefits, in the long term this is detrimental. Easy today, harder tomorrow. Hard today, easier tomorrow. Life on earth has been around for a very long time. The need to be part of real conflict and real problems is a key part of our existence and survival. I believe when we begin to always avoid conflicts, our feelings and our intuition will send signals. From personal experience, this may manifest in the forms of anxiety and depression. We may feel numb in the moment due to the practiced suppression of thought and feelings but beyond, we are accumulating baggage. We have not articulated our soulful values and thoughts and have been practicing an essence of "giving up" for a long time.
We kind of know, we kind of feel bad. There is a lot of vagueness and uncertainty here. For me, it's created a personality of idealism. I get lost in dreams, stories and hope. But everything happens for a reason. We create multiple dimensions within ourselves. Within one self, we may have a 'work self', 'a persona when with family' or the 'self when you're alone at 11pm at night'. I believe this is completely normal in this complex modern society. I feel it is part of my duty to create a higher synthesis of these different personas, to ultimately create who I want to be, guided by my goals, roadmaps and moral frameworks of what I believe to be right and wrong. And the first step to this is identification and understanding (Anderson and Krathwohl's amended Bloom's Taxonomy: higher order thinking).
In the eternal processes of self-development, we can bring awareness to problems that are more immediate and easier to deal with. Perhaps it's work related, perhaps it's physical health. However, when we begin to master the art of problem solving in these areas, we can apply the same principle, the same essence towards more complex issues like family relationships, our intrapersonal relationship with ourselves or intimate relationships. How you do anything, is how you do everything. We are expanding our consciousness towards our subconsciousness. And of course, this is an intensive, life long process demanding patience, discipline, love and hope (to name a few).
Right now, I've found these three things to have supported me immensely throughout this journey of becoming a problem solver:
Unconditional love
Never giving up
Learning to let go
As mentioned, we need to be shown these things from a young age. We may see solutions and examples of these solutions applied in social media. These are glimpses and while they can help cognition, to transcend the cognitive dissonance, we need to be shown these things in person. Someone who unconditionally loves you, someone who has never given up on you, someone who has learnt to let go of immense baggage.
My friends, don't give up. Mastery in any craft is discipline measured in decades. The solution will reveal themselves over time. The solutions will come to you.
ions will reveal themselves. Or for better wording, the solutions will come to you.
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